Edit + Re-Release of ‘Quiet’ on the way

 

Earlier this year I culminated and released my first volume of personal writing. I decided to pull it and make some subtle changes, thanks to help from an incredible editor who offered this service to me as I had gifted the book in exchange for the years of encouragement and support that I had received. The book will be re-released sometime this week, and I’ll be offering as a free download. As soon as editing for Quiet is complete, I will begin culminating ‘Reflections | Volume 2′ (no details on this yet). I’ve decided that all future releases will continue to be free with the option to donate. However, the download will still be available with or without donation. I hope your week is going beautifully.

 

xo

Michelle (Aurora)

On Finding a Companion

Photo of me at Silver Lake Dunes, MI. Credit: Amy Parrish

 

It has been quite some time since my thoughts have kept me wide awake.

 

 

Night and Day (fleeting moments between mother and child)

Night and Day. from EscapeToLight on Vimeo.

 

It seems like only yesterday, I was rocking him to sleep in my arms.

My son and I often explore together, and today we drove 1/2 of the Coastal Ohio Trail along Lake Erie. The trail totals 293 miles of sand, stone, shells, trees, wildlife, big cities, and small towns. We stopped to take in views at Cleveland, Lakewood, Huntington Beach, Marblehead, Lakeside, Port Clinton, and East Harbor State Park. The opening clip shows a photograph on canvas that was taken back in 2005 when he was only 4 years old. He acted so mature and expressive during that session, and it was one of the only times he ever wanted his photos taken.

Checking the camera gear this morning, I noticed on the memory card was [Night and Day's] opening bathtub scene that had been recorded already more than a year ago. In our final moments before departure I felt myself becoming nostalgic toward the kind of time we spent together when he was so young. In the same instant I felt myself curious about the evolution that has occurred, and is still occurring, from then to now to years from now. These days, we’re able to hop in the car and spontaneously end up wherever our hearts desire. Nostalgia and curiosity are two opposite energies that can become so magnetically woven together…. affirming the present moment holds so much value and meaning.

I must admit — although I remained very present and aware throughout the day, putting this little short film together was done so through a fog in my eyes, a haze of happy tears — especially when I found the beautiful music by -DX- on Soundcloud to add to the video. I hope you enjoy the combination of sound and sight.

Here’s a question for other parent’s reading this post today: How do you maintain that “curious feeling” that your kids had at a young age? And if your child/children are still young, how do encourage them to explore their curiosities?

 

Until next time.. and thanks for visiting

xo,

Michelle (Aurora)

 

How to Experience Abundance

Photo © Michelle Black 2014

 

Mistaken Value

We have been conditioned to believe we need to acquire more [financially or materialistically] in order to experience more. This could not be further from what is possible. Existentially, we sometimes mistakenly seek out things that can be physically measured in order to experience ‘value’.   We live in a world where the cost of a designer cotton tee shirt can range anywhere from $90 – $165.  The cost of this tee shirt is $35 shy of a 1/2 share of organic local produce (13 week supply of food) — enough nutrient-rich produce to feed 2-3 people for 13 weeks.

 

True Abundance

True abundance can only be felt through gratitude. Gratitude is not just an expression of thankfulness, but a practice of being. Through consistent daily practice, gratitude helps us stay centered and present, alleviating feelings of need. Ever felt like you really needed that beautiful new ring, finally finished saving up the thousands of dollars to update the already-functioning cabinetry in your kitchen, or had to have that $450 Coach purse that has been marked down to $200? This feeling is a result of a number of things; design shows that are reality-based, constant advertisements on the internet, everywhere you look while driving, and every radio station or television channel… these are essentially brainwashing the masses. We don’t have to participate in these behaviors that are only wasting our planet’s resources.

True abundance can be felt when we’re willing to let go of attachments to material possessions, when we release ourselves from attachments to labels of any kind [ahem... "hipster kid, goth girl/guy, hippie, etc"] — when we let go of definitions entirely and experience things from moment to moment without attaching ourselves to the words we use to define the experience.

Abundance is experienced when we open ourselves to spend time with the little drops of rain that have collected on a leaf after the storm [photo in this article, above]…. abundance is felt when we let go of the chatter in our minds and feel filled up with each inhalation of oxygen provided to us by our Earth. When you share a smile with your child, when the songbirds are still singing after the screaming sirens die off, at every sunrise, beneath every night sky, with every bite of food, with each moment we can sit and rest, wisdom shared, loving emotions felt, every new day… just a few of the infinite ways to experience abundance.

What moments can you think of in your life, when you felt true abundance? Please feel free to share your experience in a comment below:)

 

Thanks for reading, and see you next time!

xo

 

Michelle (Aurora)

Life as an Exchange | vlog

Life as an Exchange from Michelle Black on Vimeo.

Julie - May 30, 2014 - 7:07 pm

I loved this first vlog & the story you shared. I find the irony beyond amazing. Things like that make me tear up :) I’ve been following your journey off and on since your conceptual photo days and feel fortunate to get a glimpse into your transformation….always inspiring. Thanks for sharing!

Julie

http://www.gatheringnectar.blogspot.com

Michelle (Aurora) - June 5, 2014 - 12:55 pm

Thank you Julie! Appreciate your presence and contribution here. Glad we share the joy of experiences like these!

Phantom of Peace

Something more than we give ourselves a chance to be;

I reject your definition of “free”

Take me to the pyramids

Across the big sea…

Phantom of Peace,

Sing your anthem.

 

Heavy morning, chemical clouds, integrity:

I reject your limitations, power, greed

Take me past the atmosphere

Into the Dark Deep

Phantom of Peace,

Sing your anthem.

Sing without them.

 © 2014

Growing Into Your Cautious Heart

 

There are moments when we’ve all been a bit naive.

Maybe it was giving others the benefit of the doubt,  or over-anticiping an end result, or trusting someone with harmful intentions…. whatever the case, as time passes we learn to be more careful.

You can still offer kindness and love without being naive, and yes, you can still take big risks and hold tight to your adventurous, free-spirit.

 

Caution versus Fear

Just because you’re careful about the situations and people you place yourself around does not mean you’re afraid, it means you’re aware. You know what’s healthy for you personally, and what isn’t. While some prefer quiet evenings in the bubble bath and a book, others prefer hyped up social gatherings filled with new people. Whether you’re one or the other, doesn’t mean the other is “worse” or that your way is “better”, it just means you know yourself. Yes, there are times when breaking out of your comfort zone is necessary, but not if it compromises your values or safety. That helps keep it pretty clear, whether or not a risk is worth taking.

 

Hope you’re having an awesome week so far!

 

xox

Michelle

Follow Through, You Can

 

This wasn’t what I had planned for the blog today, so perhaps someone out there is calling out to hear it.

This morning’s meditation was a bit more focused than some in the past, it led me to write this almost immediately following. 5 a.m. is my call time everyday, the time of day when the alarm sounds and I decide whether or not to get up and proceed with the routine: Wake-up shower, hydrate (the amount has increased to 32 oz), first meditation, more water, second meditation. Notice I didn’t say ” 5 a.m. is when I get up every day ” — it’s a choice. I no longer make plans that will interfere with adequate rest, I don’t stay up working late unless I’m prepared in advance to follow through with my commitment to 5 a.m.

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Guiding Yourself Toward Inclination

I’ve been learning a lot from Paraliminal audio sessions with Paul R. Scheele. This morning I took from him something profoundly simple; creating your inclinations.

When you’re growing up, you may or may not have the desire to fix your hair, wash your face at night, or brush your teeth. These are things that (hopefully) your parents instill within you, that will eventually become like second nature; you just do it without thinking about it. Riding a bike is another good example of this; you’re paying careful attention to your body, the way the grips feel in your hands, how it feels when you’re losing balance… but once you learn how to ride, you think less of those things and are more able to enjoy the ride since you are now inclined to balance yourself because you understand how to do it.

This is how my mornings have progressed, and I do still wake up at times and think:  Do I get up, or do I hit snooze…? 

A certain number of things had to happen in order to make this transition. I’ve always been a morning person, but 5 a.m. used to seem soooo early to me. Grogginess during the day used to be the norm for me until I assessed the problem and realized that hydration was a huge factor. So, I did a little research and started implementing proper hydration into the equation (I’ll be posting about hydration soon). Next up, I had to get to bed earlier. Typically I’d stay up after my son went to sleep and work for a bit, or just have some time to myself. There’s a “deadline” in place for sleeping now; I know that staying up past 11 pm will not give me sufficient rest. So, I had to adjust my work schedule, started to plan out certain parts of my workday in advance, and now follow a stricter daily timeline overall.

Following through with any type of real commitment requires acknowledgement and acceptance of what it is that is holding you back, willingness to alter the pattern. This will trickle down into other areas; one positive change inspires other subtle changes that will be in alignment with your purpose. You’ll know when you aren’t committed, because what you’re working toward will still feel like a chore. When you’re fully committed, you’ll feel great about what you’re working on because you know that the end result will be growth and prosperity in that area of your life, whether it is a relationship, changing jobs, breaking yourself of a poor habit,  losing weight, or any number of things.

How do you feel when you make a commitment on a whim and then fail to follow-through? Guilt. Disappointment. You’re already setting yourself up for these things if you don’t have a solid plan in place.

 

Simple Steps to Help You Follow Through With Commitment 

1. Identify the ultimate goal / the person you see yourself growing into.

2. Acknowledge and accept the responsibility of situations, behaviors, and negative influences that you have allowed, and that currently hold you back from making positive changes.

3. Decide how you can make adjustments that will pave the way toward full commitment.

4. Change the situation, behavior, or negative influence.

5. Keep trying! Don’t give up. You aren’t going to know exactly what to do. When something doesn’t work, reconstruct the plan and keep moving forward.

6. Eliminate negative perspectives.

7. Find people who share your values and make time to have conversations with them about life’s purpose : ) This has been one of the most powerful aspects of growth for me personally; making sure that positive influence is the biggest part of my life, and seeking to be that for others.

 

Have a lovely weekend!

^_^

 © Michelle Black, 2014

” Let me Tell You What I Mean When I Say Love… ”

We continue to honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. for spreading the message of unconditional love. He was inspired by many, loved and admired by many. This morning, I read some of MLK’s thoughts on love and decided to share this quote:

 

“[Agape] is the overflowing love which seeks nothing in return. And when you rise to love on this level, you love people who don’t move you. you love those that you don’t like. you love those whose ways are distasteful to you…”

A LINK TO RECOMMENDED READ:   Letter from Birmingham City Jail, by Martin Luther King, Jr. 

 

My own commentary on the letter:

In his letter from Birmingham City Jail following one of the biggest civil rights marches in history, he describes himself as carrying “the gospel of freedom”  and that “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere,”  — and here he was specifically addressing the city of Birmingham that he deems as being the most “thoroughly segregated city in the U.S.”  King’s activism — nonviolent direct action — was used effectively to stir tension, and to bring attention to these matters. He goes on, “… there is a certain type of constructive nonviolent tension that is necessary for growth.”

In King’s view, freedom is something to be demanded when it is being withheld. <3

Handling Gossip with Gracefulness

 

It is human nature to discuss other human beings with one another: to inquire about them, to be fascinated by them, to love or dislike them. Some of the world’s most successful print and web publications base their content on gossip. Sometimes it seems we’re surrounded by gossip and gossipers, and it is likely we’ve all found ourselves in situations where the topic of discussion left us feeling uncomfortable or even confused. I had a conversation about this subject with my Grandmother, and she remarked, “Age doesn’t stop it from happening. It’s just as much of an issue now as it was when I was young.”

Is gossip ever okay? The answer: NO, gossip is never okay, under any circumstances. There is a difference between genuine concern for what someone is going through, and flat-out gossip.

So, what’s the difference?

 

Tongue Etiquette

  1. When is discussing another person appropriate, and when is it gossip? Discussing an individual’s personal life isn’t ever really ‘appropriate’ – a person’s accomplishments, pursuits, and conquests aren’t typically private matters, though, and we wouldn’t have history books if we couldn’t talk about others. We want to know, to a certain extent, the background of our leaders and government officials. Celebrities put themselves at the mercy of the public domain. Gossip is often nothing more than assumption that leads to a rumor, but sometimes it does begin from first-handed contact with the individual and his or her behavior. If there isn’t a valid point in discussing a person, it is likely inappropriate, or gossip. Wikipedia uses the phrase ‘idle talk.’
  2. How do you handle someone who gossips? Easy. Dismiss the subject gracefully! All you have to do is simply say: “This is gossiping,” or “This is none of my business, could we please talk about something else?” Only you yourself can be held accountable for how you direct a conversation.
  3. What should you do if you find yourself the subject of gossip? It’s difficult when you find out that your personal affairs have been discussed without your knowledge. Gossip is most effectively handled by approaching the person or persons and simply asking them why they felt like it was okay to talk about you, and ask them not to do it. Don’t waste too much energy being upset or angry; life continues to move forward. Confronting the situation and moving forward from it is much healthier in the long run than keeping feelings bottled, or letting resentment build.
  4. What should you do if someone tells you something that raises concern about another person, or about himself/herself? This is the magical situation in where it is (sometimes) excusable to disclose a private matter. You might try seeking advice anonymously, or talk to someone who has proven to be trustworthy about how you might be able to help.

 

There isn’t a single person on this Earth that has lived a perfect life. Many of us go through struggles that are difficult to make sense of; death, divorce, major life changes, for example.  Before you discuss someone else with another person, consider how you’d feel if the tables were turned and you were in their shoes. Take caution in who you disclose personal information to. If someone is willing to talk to you about people you don’t even know, it is likely they’re talking about you, with people you don’t know. Of course, intention is everything. Consider why you want to talk about someone before doing so.

Have something to add? Please leave a comment below on your feelings about gossip.

 

 

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