This wasn’t what I had planned for the blog today, so perhaps someone out there is calling out to hear it.
This morning’s meditation was a bit more focused than some in the past, it led me to write this almost immediately following. 5 a.m. is my call time everyday, the time of day when the alarm sounds and I decide whether or not to get up and proceed with the routine: Wake-up shower, hydrate (the amount has increased to 32 oz), first meditation, more water, second meditation. Notice I didn’t say ” 5 a.m. is when I get up every day ” — it’s a choice. I no longer make plans that will interfere with adequate rest, I don’t stay up working late unless I’m prepared in advance to follow through with my commitment to 5 a.m.
Guiding Yourself Toward Inclination
I’ve been learning a lot from Paraliminal audio sessions with Paul R. Scheele. This morning I took from him something profoundly simple; creating your inclinations.
When you’re growing up, you may or may not have the desire to fix your hair, wash your face at night, or brush your teeth. These are things that (hopefully) your parents instill within you, that will eventually become like second nature; you just do it without thinking about it. Riding a bike is another good example of this; you’re paying careful attention to your body, the way the grips feel in your hands, how it feels when you’re losing balance… but once you learn how to ride, you think less of those things and are more able to enjoy the ride since you are now inclined to balance yourself because you understand how to do it.
This is how my mornings have progressed, and I do still wake up at times and think: Do I get up, or do I hit snooze…?
A certain number of things had to happen in order to make this transition. I’ve always been a morning person, but 5 a.m. used to seem soooo early to me. Grogginess during the day used to be the norm for me until I assessed the problem and realized that hydration was a huge factor. So, I did a little research and started implementing proper hydration into the equation (I’ll be posting about hydration soon). Next up, I had to get to bed earlier. Typically I’d stay up after my son went to sleep and work for a bit, or just have some time to myself. There’s a “deadline” in place for sleeping now; I know that staying up past 11 pm will not give me sufficient rest. So, I had to adjust my work schedule, started to plan out certain parts of my workday in advance, and now follow a stricter daily timeline overall.
Following through with any type of real commitment requires acknowledgement and acceptance of what it is that is holding you back, willingness to alter the pattern. This will trickle down into other areas; one positive change inspires other subtle changes that will be in alignment with your purpose. You’ll know when you aren’t committed, because what you’re working toward will still feel like a chore. When you’re fully committed, you’ll feel great about what you’re working on because you know that the end result will be growth and prosperity in that area of your life, whether it is a relationship, changing jobs, breaking yourself of a poor habit, losing weight, or any number of things.
How do you feel when you make a commitment on a whim and then fail to follow-through? Guilt. Disappointment. You’re already setting yourself up for these things if you don’t have a solid plan in place.
Simple Steps to Help You Follow Through With Commitment
1. Identify the ultimate goal / the person you see yourself growing into.
2. Acknowledge and accept the responsibility of situations, behaviors, and negative influences that you have allowed, and that currently hold you back from making positive changes.
3. Decide how you can make adjustments that will pave the way toward full commitment.
4. Change the situation, behavior, or negative influence.
5. Keep trying! Don’t give up. You aren’t going to know exactly what to do. When something doesn’t work, reconstruct the plan and keep moving forward.
6. Eliminate negative perspectives.
7. Find people who share your values and make time to have conversations with them about life’s purpose : ) This has been one of the most powerful aspects of growth for me personally; making sure that positive influence is the biggest part of my life, and seeking to be that for others.
Have a lovely weekend!